综合英语(一)下册 lessonx11

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Lesson Eleven : The Emotional Bank Account—Secrets of Happy Families

1.The emotional bank account is like a financial bank account in one way: you can make “deposits”---actions that build trust---or you can make “withdrawals” that decrease it. It represents the quality of the relationship you have with other people. If you have a high balance, then communication is open and free.

2.Let me share ideas for “deposits” you can make in your family:

Cultivate kindness.

3.Many years ago I spent an evening out with two of my sons. In the middle of the movie, Sean, the four, fell asleep. His older brother Stephen, six, stayed awake, and we watched the rest of the movie together. When it was over, I carried Sean to the car. It was cold, so I took off my coat and gently put it over him.

4.When we arrived home, I carried Sean in, then lay down next to Stephen to talk. Suddenly he asked, “Daddy, if I were cold, would you put your coat around me, too?”

5.Of all the events of our night out together, the most important was a little act of kindness---a showing of love to his brother.

6.In relationships, the little things are the big things. They go a long way toward building trust and unconditional love. Just think about the impact in your family of using words of courtesy such as thank you and please. Or unexpected acts of service, such as taking children shopping for something that’s important to them. Or finding little ways to express love, such as leaving a note in a lunch box or briefcase.

Earn an “A” apologize.

7.Perhaps nothing tests our capacity to initiate change as much as saying “I’m sorry I embarrassed you in front of your friends. That was wrong of me.”

8.“Sweetheart, I apologize for cutting you off. I was so rude. Please forgive me.”

9.Sometimes apologizing is incredibly hard, but the effort says, “Our relationship is very important to me.” And that kind of communication builds the Emotional Bank Account.

Learn loyalty.

10.Next to apologizing, one of the most important deposits a person can make is to be loyal to family members when they are not present.

11.In other words, talk about others as if they were there. That doesn’t mean you’re unaware of their weaknesses. It means, rather, that you focus on the positive---and that if you do talk about weaknesses, you do it in such a way that you wouldn’t be ashamed to have the person overhear it.

12.A friend had an 1/-year-old son whose habits annoyed his brothers and sisters. When the boy wasn’t there, the family often talked about him. At one point, this friend decided to follow the principle of being loyal to those not present. When such conversations developed, he gently interrupted and said something good that he had observed his son doing. Soon the conversation would shift to more interesting subjects.

13.Our friend said he soon felt that the others began to connect with this principle of family loyalty. They realized that he’d also defend them if they were not present. And in some unexplainable manner---perhaps because he started seeing his son differently---this change improved his Emotional Bank Account

Make---and keep---promises.

14.Over the years people have asked if I had one simple idea that would help others cope with problems, seize opportunities and make their lives successful. I give a four-word answer: “make and keep promises.”

15.My daughter, Cynthia, recalls something that happened when she was 12 years old: “Dad promised to take me with him on a business trip to San Francisco. We talked about the trip for months. After his meetings. We planned to take a cab to Chinatown and have our favorite food and see a movie. I was dying with expectation.

16.“The day finally arrived. The hours dragged by as I waited for Dad to finish work. At about 6:30, he arrived with an influential business acquaintance who wanted to take us to dinner. My disappointment was bigger than life.

17.“I will never forget Dad saying to him, “I’d love to see you, but this is a special time with my girl. We’ve got it planned to the minute.” We did everything. That was just about the happiest time of my life. I don’t think any young girl ever loved her father as much as I loved mine that night.”

18.I’m convinced that you would be hard pressed to come up with a deposit that has more impact in the family than making and keeping promises.

Don’t forget to forgive.

19.For may, the ultimate deposit to the Emotional Bank Account comes in forgiving.

20.When you forgive, you open the channels for trust and unconditional love. You cleanse your heart. You also remove a major obstacle that keeps others from changing---because when you don’t forgive, you put yourself between people and their conscience. Instead of spending their energy on work with their own conscience, they spend it defending and justifying their behavior to you.

21.In everything you do for your family, keep in mind the miracle of the Chinese bamboo, after the seed is planted, new, taller shoots appear until the bamboo reaches full height. But the most dramatic growth is underground, where the roots grow very strong. With this support, the bamboo can reach a height of 120 feet!

22.The Emotional Bank Account can be like that. As you begin to make deposits, you may see positive results immediately. More often it will take weeks, months, even years. But results will come, and you will be astonished at the change.

Word List

emotional adj. 感情(上)的,情绪(上)的

bank account n. 银行帐户

financial adj. 金融的,财政的

deposit n. 存款

action n. 行动,行为

build v. (逐渐)增加,增强

withdrawal n. 提款

decrease v. 减少

balance n. 余额

communication n. 交流,交际

open adj. 坦诚的

cultivate v. 培养,养成

kindness v. 亲切

awake adj. (一般作表语)醒着的

daddy n. (=dad)(口语)爸爸

unconditional adj. 无条件的,不受(条件)制约的

impact n. 影响,作用

unexpected adj. 没有料到的,意外的

briefcase n. 公文包

earn v. 获得,挣得

capacity n. 能力,才能

initiate v. 使……开始;开始,着手

sweetheart n. (夫妻之间或对孩子等的爱称)亲爱的,宝贝儿

incredibly adv. 难以置信地

loyal adj. 忠诚的

loyalty n. 忠诚

next to prep. 次于,居于……之后

unaware adj. 未意识到的,未觉察到的

weakness n. 弱点,缺点

rather adv. 更确切地说

positive adj. 正面的;积极的;肯定的

the positive n. 值得肯定的地方

overhear n. 无意中听到,偷听到

annoy v. 使恼怒,使烦恼

principle n. 原则

shift v. 转移

defend v. 维护,保护

recall v. 回想起,回忆起

cab n. (美)出租汽车

drag v. (时间)缓慢地流逝

influential adj. 有势力的,有影响力的

acquaintance n. 熟人

ultimate adj. 最终的,最后的

channel n. 途径

cleanse v. 使纯净

obstacle n. 障碍(物)

conscience n. 良心,道德心

justify v. 证明(言语、行为等)正当、合理或公正,为……辩护

miracle n. 奇迹

bamboo n. 竹子

shoot n. 竹笋,嫩芽

reach v. 达到;到达

dramatic adj. 戏剧性的;重大的;戏剧的

growth n. 生长

support n. 支撑,支持

 

Proper Names

Stephen R.Covey 斯蒂芬·R科维(人名)

Sean 肖恩(人名)

Stephen 斯蒂芬(人名)

Cynthia 辛西娅(人名)

San Francisco 旧金山(美国加利福尼亚州西部港口城市)

Chinatown 中国城,唐人街

 

Useful Expressions

make a deposit /withdrawal 存款或提款

that is wrong of me 我错了

apologize for (doing) sth. 为……而道歉

cut sb.off 打断某人讲话

be loyal to 对……忠诚,忠实于……

be unaware of 没有意识到

focus on 集中(注意、关心)于……

be ashamed to do 为做……而感到羞耻

keep a promise 遵守诺言

cope with (巧妙地)应付,处理

promise to do 许诺做某事

be hard pressed to do sth. 做……很困难

come up with 想出,找出

keep in mind 记住

be astonished at 对……非常吃惊

such a (an) …that 如此……以至于……

He is such a good person that everyone likes him.

to the minute 准时,一分不差

It is 10:30 to the minute.

keep …from doing 使……不做……,防止……做……

His consciense kept him from doing such a thing.
感谢大耳朵网友"cherrylxy"提供的听力原文 Lesson Eleven : The Emotional Bank Account—Secrets of Happy Families 1.The emotional bank account is like a financial bank account in one way: you can make “deposits”---actions that build trust---or you can make “withdrawals” that decrease it. It represents the quality of the relationship you have with other people. If you have a high balance, then communication is open and free. 2.Let me share ideas for “deposits” you can make in your family: Cultivate kindness. 3.Many years ago I spent an evening out with two of my sons. In the middle of the movie, Sean, the four, fell asleep. His older brother Stephen, six, stayed awake, and we watched the rest of the movie together. When it was over, I carried Sean to the car. It was cold, so I took off my coat and gently put it over him. 4.When we arrived home, I carried Sean in, then lay down next to Stephen to talk. Suddenly he asked, “Daddy, if I were cold, would you put your coat around me, too?” 5.Of all the events of our night out together, the most important was a little act of kindness---a showing of love to his brother. 6.In relationships, the little things are the big things. They go a long way toward building trust and unconditional love. Just think about the impact in your family of using words of courtesy such as thank you and please. Or unexpected acts of service, such as taking children shopping for something that’s important to them. Or finding little ways to express love, such as leaving a note in a lunch box or briefcase. Earn an “A” apologize. 7.Perhaps nothing tests our capacity to initiate change as much as saying “I’m sorry I embarrassed you in front of your friends. That was wrong of me.” 8.“Sweetheart, I apologize for cutting you off. I was so rude. Please forgive me.” 9.Sometimes apologizing is incredibly hard, but the effort says, “Our relationship is very important to me.” And that kind of communication builds the Emotional Bank Account. Learn loyalty. 10.Next to apologizing, one of the most important deposits a person can make is to be loyal to family members when they are not present. 11.In other words, talk about others as if they were there. That doesn’t mean you’re unaware of their weaknesses. It means, rather, that you focus on the positive---and that if you do talk about weaknesses, you do it in such a way that you wouldn’t be ashamed to have the person overhear it. 12.A friend had an 1/-year-old son whose habits annoyed his brothers and sisters. When the boy wasn’t there, the family often talked about him. At one point, this friend decided to follow the principle of being loyal to those not present. When such conversations developed, he gently interrupted and said something good that he had observed his son doing. Soon the conversation would shift to more interesting subjects. 13.Our friend said he soon felt that the others began to connect with this principle of family loyalty. They realized that he’d also defend them if they were not present. And in some unexplainable manner---perhaps because he started seeing his son differently---this change improved his Emotional Bank Account Make---and keep---promises. 14.Over the years people have asked if I had one simple idea that would help others cope with problems, seize opportunities and make their lives successful. I give a four-word answer: “make and keep promises.” 15.My daughter, Cynthia, recalls something that happened when she was 12 years old: “Dad promised to take me with him on a business trip to San Francisco. We talked about the trip for months. After his meetings. We planned to take a cab to Chinatown and have our favorite food and see a movie. I was dying with expectation. 16.“The day finally arrived. The hours dragged by as I waited for Dad to finish work. At about 6:30, he arrived with an influential business acquaintance who wanted to take us to dinner. My disappointment was bigger than life. 17.“I will never forget Dad saying to him, “I’d love to see you, but this is a special time with my girl. We’ve got it planned to the minute.” We did everything. That was just about the happiest time of my life. I don’t think any young girl ever loved her father as much as I loved mine that night.” 18.I’m convinced that you would be hard pressed to come up with a deposit that has more impact in the family than making and keeping promises. Don’t forget to forgive. 19.For may, the ultimate deposit to the Emotional Bank Account comes in forgiving. 20.When you forgive, you open the channels for trust and unconditional love. You cleanse your heart. You also remove a major obstacle that keeps others from changing---because when you don’t forgive, you put yourself between people and their conscience. Instead of spending their energy on work with their own conscience, they spend it defending and justifying their behavior to you. 21.In everything you do for your family, keep in mind the miracle of the Chinese bamboo, after the seed is planted, new, taller shoots appear until the bamboo reaches full height. But the most dramatic growth is underground, where the roots grow very strong. With this support, the bamboo can reach a height of 120 feet! 22.The Emotional Bank Account can be like that. As you begin to make deposits, you may see positive results immediately. More often it will take weeks, months, even years. But results will come, and you will be astonished at the change. Word List emotional adj. 感情(上)的,情绪(上)的 bank account n. 银行帐户 financial adj. 金融的,财政的 deposit n. 存款 action n. 行动,行为 build v. (逐渐)增加,增强 withdrawal n. 提款 decrease v. 减少 balance n. 余额 communication n. 交流,交际 open adj. 坦诚的 cultivate v. 培养,养成 kindness v. 亲切 awake adj. (一般作表语)醒着的 daddy n. (=dad)(口语)爸爸 unconditional adj. 无条件的,不受(条件)制约的 impact n. 影响,作用 unexpected adj. 没有料到的,意外的 briefcase n. 公文包 earn v. 获得,挣得 capacity n. 能力,才能 initiate v. 使……开始;开始,着手 sweetheart n. (夫妻之间或对孩子等的爱称)亲爱的,宝贝儿 incredibly adv. 难以置信地 loyal adj. 忠诚的 loyalty n. 忠诚 next to prep. 次于,居于……之后 unaware adj. 未意识到的,未觉察到的 weakness n. 弱点,缺点 rather adv. 更确切地说 positive adj. 正面的;积极的;肯定的 the positive n. 值得肯定的地方 overhear n. 无意中听到,偷听到 annoy v. 使恼怒,使烦恼 principle n. 原则 shift v. 转移 defend v. 维护,保护 recall v. 回想起,回忆起 cab n. (美)出租汽车 drag v. (时间)缓慢地流逝 influential adj. 有势力的,有影响力的 acquaintance n. 熟人 ultimate adj. 最终的,最后的 channel n. 途径 cleanse v. 使纯净 obstacle n. 障碍(物) conscience n. 良心,道德心 justify v. 证明(言语、行为等)正当、合理或公正,为……辩护 miracle n. 奇迹 bamboo n. 竹子 shoot n. 竹笋,嫩芽 reach v. 达到;到达 dramatic adj. 戏剧性的;重大的;戏剧的 growth n. 生长 support n. 支撑,支持   Proper Names Stephen R.Covey 斯蒂芬·R科维(人名) Sean 肖恩(人名) Stephen 斯蒂芬(人名) Cynthia 辛西娅(人名) San Francisco 旧金山(美国加利福尼亚州西部港口城市) Chinatown 中国城,唐人街   Useful Expressions make a deposit /withdrawal 存款或提款 that is wrong of me 我错了 apologize for (doing) sth. 为……而道歉 cut sb.off 打断某人讲话 be loyal to 对……忠诚,忠实于…… be unaware of 没有意识到 focus on 集中(注意、关心)于…… be ashamed to do 为做……而感到羞耻 keep a promise 遵守诺言 cope with (巧妙地)应付,处理 promise to do 许诺做某事 be hard pressed to do sth. 做……很困难 come up with 想出,找出 keep in mind 记住 be astonished at 对……非常吃惊 such a (an) …that 如此……以至于…… He is such a good person that everyone likes him. to the minute 准时,一分不差 It is 10:30 to the minute. keep …from doing 使……不做……,防止……做…… His consciense kept him from doing such a thing.
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